It has to do with who gets the credit for the experiences we have that line the path of our journey, both the empowering and the disempowering.
The lightbulb “aha!” moment came when we were discussing an organization she had previously belonged to that she felt held the key and responsibility for everything she was experiencing. Once she was no longer a part of the organization, she felt like she could no longer achieve the success, personal growth or meaning without it – that it was all predicated on her participation in the organization and she relied upon it for her sense of self worth. So the loss of that identity meant a disconnection with all the leaps she had made and the healing she had undergone.
The breakthrough was this – It’s all been within her. Whatever it was that the organization sparked, already existed within her.
We’re not able to experience transformation without a conscious or subconscious consent to enter into that process. Yes, there are catalysts for the shifts we encounter. And no, nothing is achieved or created alone. But the catalysts would not have shown up if we did not summon them.
So the things that we often times want to give credit to – the book that changed your life, the relationship that taught you love and acceptance or the travels that inspired you to pursue your passion, did indeed have a role in the events and outcome. But so did you! Something in you willed them to play such a significant part. I’m sick of us counting ourselves out on the roster of team that helped build us.
The same for the less than powerful experiences we’d like to pawn off and blame other entities for. This is an opportunity to take personal responsibility for what shows up in your life and how you created its existence. Let’s take drugs or alcohol for instance and the euphoric experience they can create. David R. Hawkins does a wonderful job of explaining this effect and its impact in his book Power vs. Force:
The actual effects of drugs is merely to suppress the lower energy fields, thereby allowing the user to exclusively experience the higher ones….The suppression of the low notes doesn’t create the high ones;it merely reveals them.
Do you see that?! Drugs do not create anything, but rather reveal what was otherwise being suppressed, suppressed by our lower energy fields of fear, anxiety, anger, jealousy, and on and on and on. The problem with drugs in particular is that they are not a sustainable way to achieve this level of beingness. What we can do instead is look for more higher level energy catalysts to reveal our “higher tones” long term, rather than a roller coaster of temporary highs and hard crashes.
So look at the contributors to your life experience. Think about the high notes that they facilitate revealing. And think about what you did or what already exists within you to open the door for that opportunity.
I’m advocating acknowledging the balance in your Universe, the collaboration of your thoughts and actions along with the circumstances, things and organizations that enter. Because it’s about you. It’s going to come down to you and how you write your story. You’ll have co-authors, contributors and illustrators, and they’ll all inevitably be a reflection of who it is that you know yourself to be.