It’s common to hear a variation of the phrase, “if you want to change the world, work on yourself.”
I happen to agree with this – I believe we don’t see the world as it is but as our belief system (our lens of our thoughts, actions and habits) dictates we see it. In other words, we are ultimately in control of how we experience this thing called life.
But what does that really mean? Where do you start, what do you look for and how can you translate the lesson into a clear and digestible thing?
Because sometimes it’s frustrating to receive the cryptic advice on how to open ourselves up to this possibility. Don’t get me wrong, I love some of the esoteric, ancient medicine man type speak that sounds really awesome and renders you speechless with an epic mind blow. But other times, you just want it shot to you straight. You want the basic instruction manual on how to do something.
I get it, and that’s why I came up with 3 clear things to help you start to shift your life experience. There is a caveat, though. Reading the 3 things does not guarantee their execution and success. That’s up to you. It’s up to all of us. We can get help when it comes to identifying the things to work on, but we have to show up and take action.
1. Your Tribe
Your crew. Your peeps. Your VIPS. You get it. But a lot of us don’t “got it.” So many of us rely on pretense that we are these truly independent beings who can go it alone and don’t need anybody for anything.
Well you do. You rely on people every single day, 24 hours of that day – to ensure you have food to eat, gas to put in cars to drive, electricity and power to keep you connected.
Nothing is ever achieved alone.
To make real progress in your goals and personal growth, you must learn to “interdepend” on a support team and community of people around you to love you and hold you to that.
You ARE the 5 people that you spend the most time with. So being serious about making change in your life involves addressing your relationships with these people and evaluating how well they align with what it is you want to experience.
2. Your Habits
We are what we repeatedly do. Our habits reveal a lot about our priorities and values. As Stephen Covey would say in 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, they sum up your character.
By shifting some of our less healthy habits for healthier ones (and again utilizing the tribe for support and accountability), we inspire ourselves. We also inspire others – to change and to grow.
And this isn’t just about the things you do. What you don’t do says a lot as well. Inaction and neglect are still active choices. So as you think about what makes up your daily routine and how you spend your time, it’s important to include in there the things that we are avoiding and would rather like to forget about. Sometimes those are the doors to our greatest breakthroughs.
3. Your View
Attitude is altitude! In other words, the mindset you’re holding determines the level at which you’re operating.
I already said it – our belief system dictates how we see the world. This includes our thought patterns, words, actions, etc.
I’m not saying shift everything overnight. That’s not realistic or sustainable. But starting with the little things like the language you use to describe yourself, your life and the things in it is a great move.
Swapping out qualifiers like “good” or “bad” or even “positive” or “negative” can have an impact. I prefer words like “powerful” and “less powerful” or “healthy” and “unhealthy.” It removes the judgement aspect of my inner and outer self talk.
What are some clear ways to work on shifting your point of view? Daily affirmation and gratitude!
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is that in order to solve a problem, you cannot approach it with the same level of thinking that created the problem.
So whether or not it’s a problem you want to address, a situation you want to improve or further growth you want to experience, the impact won’t be as awesome without a powerful tribe, habits, and view to support it.
So yes, go change the world by working on yourself. But to get to your self, first look at the things that contribute most to who that is.